LET GO OF HURT & ANGER
Hurt and blame are two emotions that can be incredibly challenging to let go of. Whether it's a friend who betrayed us or a colleague who offended us, holding onto hurt and blame can leave us feeling angry, resentful, and stuck in the past. But, letting go of hurt and blame is possible, and it can be incredibly liberating. Here are some tips to help you let go of hurt and blame and move forward with your life.
Acknowledge your feelings
Before you can let go of hurt and blame, you need to acknowledge your feelings. It's OK to feel angry, hurt, or disappointed. Allow yourself to feel these emotions and accept them. Once you've acknowledged your feelings, you can start to work on letting them go.
Forgiveness is a powerful tool that can help you let go of hurt and blame. It's not about forgetting what happened, but rather about choosing to let go of the negative emotions that are holding you back. Forgiving someone can be incredibly difficult, but it's important to remember that forgiveness is not about the other person, it's about you.
Focus on the present
One of the reasons why hurt and blame can be so challenging to let go of is that we tend to focus on the past. It's important to shift your focus to the present moment. What can you do right now to improve your life? What are you grateful for? Have a mantra, or set phrase, you can use to shift your thinking away from the hurtful event (after you've given yourself a reasonable amount of time to process it). Focusing on the present can help you let go of the past and move forward with your life.
Taking care of yourself is crucial when you're trying to let go of hurt and blame. Self-care can mean different things to different people. It can be as simple as taking a walk, practicing meditation, or getting a massage. Whatever it is that makes you feel good, make time for it.
Remember, letting go of hurt and blame is not about forgetting what happened; it's about choosing to let go of the negative emotions that are holding you back. By letting go, you can move forward with your life and create a brighter future for yourself.
- What hurt or anger might you be holding onto? Is this feeling serving you? If so, how?
- What might be possible if you were to let it go?
- What might be the first action step to letting it go?
- Who might support you in this?